BDSM Questions and Answers: Age and BDSM

Here's how this thought got started.♥️

I received an email regarding a session that occurred, and I decided to share part of it here because I think this is something many people go through. In my opinion, mainly men.

SESSION INTERESTS are age play / regression, medical play, behavior modification, nurturing, OTK coercive training and behavior punishment

On Sun, Sep 11, 2022 at 7:20 AM, This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. wrote:

"The last couple of years has been difficult in my ability and desire to play. I’m sure it has to do with time moving along in my life."

My response:

It's ok. It's interesting how the body changes. Two things may happen. Events in life cause pause and maybe even guilt consumes us consciously or unconsciously. The other thing that happens is, our kink is our respite and a therapeutic outlet. The mind may always have a desire, but the body becomes unresponsive because of age, stress or medical history.

I think desire is all a person needs to explore their kink whether the body responds like it did in the teens and twenties or not.

We'll explore and just have fun with it. No pressure to perform and I'll go super light on the OTK. Lots of nurturing...

ADDITIONAL COMMENTS:

Along these same lines, it is important to say HOW we use a session when our mind is not in alignment with our emotional base.

Our bodies are quite interesting, but it is the mind that guides us. We may experience depression and anxiety for reasons not known to us right away. But because our mind is connected to the body, the body acts out through the mind. Our emotional well being is connected to things that happen to us and these events seed themselves and the reaction is depression and anxiety or something else.

Further along the lines of this, we self sooth through alcohol and chemical dependency, food and yes pain addiction.

Not everyone who craves a "vacation" through a session has anxiety, depression or any number of emotional upsets. But many things may happen to us to want to relieve stress, or just alter our body chemicals so we feel right again.

Know that we all go through times of "numbness" and feeling flat. My suggestion would be to open yourself up to moving through it without expectations. Sometimes it is tactile stimulation, sensory deprivation, bondage and powerlessness so that whatever happens, you have no control and it's ok.

This is one of the ways I can work with you and the situation you may be in, which is unique to you.

M Sharina