It's hot outside...tsssssssss, but it's hotter inside the dungeon.
I've turned up the ice cold central air, but my body has turned up
the blood surging through your veins HEAT! Too hot to wear clothing. (wink)
If you're ready to heat it up with the cool air blowing, drop me a line!...
Real Time Dominatrix & Mistress Femdom Sessions, Fetish, & Foot Fetish in Minneapolis, MN
I am Dominatrix Mistress Sharina Nicole. Alluring, unique, interesting, quick-witted, sweetly calculating, highly-skilled, personable, seductive, severe, & creative. As many have told me, I am "the Real Deal" in domination, submission, fetish, and kink. My experience spans decades, and is very extensive in real time sessions, and my fetish skill set and interests are vast and varied.
Bondage, Kink & Fetish Are My Craft
If I were to put into words what makes my kind of domination different from others, I would say it starts with a question numerous people have asked me over the years.
Many have asked me what is my favorite type of fetish play? Is it bondage, crossdressing, feminization, training, foot fetish, corporal, or? I'm sure that they ask to see if our interests are compatible.
It's difficult for me to answer this as I have MANY likes. Once I begin expressing any kind of fetish, I find myself swerving into a myriad of thoughts and ideas and then I'm corset deep in the feeling of talking about it. So, for me, it isn't the fetish or the kink, it's the connection, the energy exchange, and controlling another person that drives me. I get a thrill out of my domination & fetish play.
Facets of My Personality
Here are a few elements of my personality. I am a Dominatrix, a Femdom, a Domina, a Mistress, a Domme, a Goddess, a Queen, a female Dominant, a sensualist, a Mommy, a School Marm, a disciplinarian, a Mistress Doctor, a Mistress Nurse, Queen of Female Superiority, OTK spanker, Warden, Prison Guard, Therapist, an Office Boss, and a woman who takes control...just to name a few.
In role-play domination sessions, I have enjoyed many roles including: Femdom, Dominatrix, Keyholder, Sadist, Mistress, Goddess, Mommy, Prison guard, Warden, Sensualist, Bondage Top, Foot Mistress, Medical Doctor, Medical Nurse, Domina, Enema Nurse, Nurturing Sadist, Neutral Disciplinarian, Sadistic Disciplinarian, Governess, Erotic Hypnotist, Mind Controlling Hypnosis Femme Fatale, Boss, Angry Wife, Backstabbing Co-Worker, Blackmailing Ex-Girlfriend, etc.
My Sessions are a Form of Therapy
I provide therapy, healing, and catharsis. I also create sensations, thrills, and endorphin-fueled experiences for a person to get lost in.
For each and every person, male, female, and transgendered alike, their experience varies depending on their session interests, fetishes, kinks and experience (or lack of), and the amount of time that they choose to devote to exploring these, fetishes, kinks, and bdsm fantasies.
What Do I Want to Know About Your Fetish or Kink?
I want to know what your fantasy fetish or domination "DREAM SESSION" is. What pushes YOUR buttons and what are your psychological triggers? I want DETAILS. In this way, I not only listen to the KIND of feeling you would like to have but the WAY in which you have experienced it to get there. When I know this information, and if you are truly HONEST with me, the session will be ELEVATED to a level of euphoria.
I will give you an example. I saw a gentleman years ago, I knew him through the local bdsm community. While I was chatting with him, I've made notes (like I always do) and then he said the ONE thing that set the context to the entire session. He said, "I want to be bound and terrified." I could elaborate on what I did exactly, but I'll save that for another time. Suffice it to say, he had NO idea WHAT was coming, WHEN it was coming, and that it was coming on so hard. Once he was in it, he was MINE, and I remembered the one thing he said. "I want to be bound and terrified..." These seven words were very important to me so when I speak with someone for the first time I listen to what they REALLY want.
LISTENING is quite different than HEARING. Have you ever talked to someone and wondered if they heard a word you said? It is the natural inclination for people's minds to wander. When listening to a seminar there are only so many minutes an audience can FULLY listen until they need to take a break and think about what they just heard. People are always thinking...I'm listening, writing, and circling in red. I'm looking for that unique phrase that will make the session a "DREAM SESSION".
I am Your Mistress, Dominatrix, & Therapist
Many have told me that I am not the typical Dominatrix or Mistress, because my expertise and interests cover such an expansive, and very wide range of fetishes and BDSM proclivities. The most important part of this combination is my being energy oriented. I can read a person's body perfectly. I thrive on connectivity. This is why, it is not always easy to schedule an appointment with me. People schedule anywhere from 1 hour to 3 days. When I am burnt, I shift and turn off. I will not return phone calls unless I am focused and up for it. I take this work that I do VERY seriously, and the first connection is the most important. I will not come in to do a session solely for the purpose of doing a session when a person wants to. It has to be right for both of us.
My Extensive Experience as a Domme & Highly Skilled Domina
Always consensual, I often ask myself during a domination session, "what do I need to do to create a bit of a tweak"? Is it a slight whiff of perfume, or is it my breast up against the warmth of the back after flogging, electrical stimulation, dirty talk, or knowing exactly what to do with my feet during a foot worship session? So many things to do at just the right moment.
I am a highly skilled & experienced Twin Cities Dominatrix, taking great pride in developing my skills and knowledge in all areas of my craft, and I continuously grow in my experience & expertise. I am a very experienced lifestyle pro domme bdsm & fetish Mistress, -meaning, I possess a lot of knowledge & ability, and take great pride in what I do. I have educated myself through countless seminars and self-education, and I live it on a daily basis. This is my lifestyle, and I have honed my craft and expertise for 21 years.
What Kind of a Dominatrix and Mistress Am I?
Some have referred to me as "Goddess", though I declare myself a Dominatrix or Mistress. This does not predispose me to being mean, although in the case of some women, you may think this is true. I would offer the concept of different kinds of Dominatrices. Which type suits you?
For example, a "Governess", is a Victorian type teacher who comes in to a private home to teach the children. Think, "The Sound Of Music", only the children can be children as with age regression (adult baby fetish or age regression fantasy), or the training of a submissive through a Governess.
Dominatrix: Hard core. Also referred to as a Femdom, Domme or Domina. She has many hats. One of them is to act quite uncaring and very neutral and aloof to her slave or submissive. She could care less and treats him so. She may objectify him by making him wear a tray to serve drinks to her friends, or she might strap an ashtray to his face so that he may be a portable ashtray, or just use his mouth as her ashtray. She treats him like a second-class citizen, and loves punifying him to the worst degrees. She can be subtle, or she may be loud, barking out orders. She may slap his face, pull his hair, pinch his nipples until he bends to the ground on his knees. She humiliates & degrades him with such pleasure, and he loves every minute of it.
Sexy Vixen: Not quite the dominatrix or domina type, more like a mistress woman who is sexy and smells good, and every part of her you want to be near. She is a beautiful and striking sensual tease. You get into trouble not because you are being ordered around, but because her femininity and sensual nature brainwashes you and makes your brain cloud up and you do WHATEVER she says. She has used mind control leaving you are speechless and powerless over her feminine wiles. And that's just the way she likes it. You are brainwashed, hypnotized, mindfucked, and under her mind control.
Disciplinarian: The disciplinarian often helps in correcting behavior or for inflicting much needed punishment, such as otk spanking (over the knee spanking), flogging, whipping, paddling, or using a crop, switch, cat o' nine tails, etc. Discipline sessions can be very specific, such as receiving an intense and painful spanking.
Then, there is the Sadist: She is a woman who enjoys inflicting pain on men. In fact, she will inflict pain on a man or woman. She receives much pleasure out of the experience, and quite a bit of power and control. She thrives on it. Although, not a true sadist, the difference being, a sadist needs permission to hurt someone but a true sadist does not. READ THE CONTEXT OF SAFETY BELOW.
Medical Play Fetish Nurse: The medical play fetish nurse is skilled in many forms of medical play scenarios that may involve special medical equipment, medical examinations, tests, procedures, infusions, catheterizations, enemas, experiments, and unorthodox situations that remind you that she is in control, and you are not. Depending on the situation, she just might "change" you. You better be good, and do as you're told.
My Context of Safety in Domination Sessions
All of my dominatrix sessions or fetish scenarios must be negotiated upon. Some people in the bdsm lifestyle do this with a new partner. Although this is just domination or fetish play, there are different kinds of contexts and negotiations for safety. Here are the most important.
SSC: Safe, Sane and Consensual. This means that when you play with this person, they are aware of your limits and boundaries, and will never step over that. There are safe words put in place, and the person who is dominating your bdsm / fetish session or scene, most ordinarily referred to as a Top, is educated, and aware. In addition, knows the basic steps of first aid and care, that goes into any session that might go a little South. (Or a lot south)
In terms of a domination session not going as planned. I can give you a few examples of this. Way back, many years ago, I met a dominatrix who was using the same Studio that I was. She confided in me that all of a sudden her client could not remember a whole lot. He did not know why he was there, and he didn't know how he got there. At the time I had no idea what this could possibly be, but now I do. He was an older gentleman and experienced a TIA, which is also known as a Trans Ischemic Attack. Basically a mini stroke. Would your Mistress know what to do?
Over the years, I have had occasions where people lose Consciousness or faint. Unfortunately, people don't always take care of themselves prior to visiting their dominatrix, mistress, or femdom for a domination session. Sometimes they skip meals, don't sleep, or some people have a drink or two before they come in to their domina for a session. I will NEVER play with a submissive or someone that I know is intoxicated, and 99% of people prefer to fully feel the rush of the endorphins from a session with me over a cocktail.
I once had a man come in for a scheduled domination session with his Mistress (me), and as we were doing our bdsm corporal punishment session, he ends up passing out. I find out later, he didn't get much sleep the night before, and he had drinks the night before. It didn't take much to stress out his body for a fantasy fetish session that included some light to medium flogging. The entire time, I had the feeling that I needed to check on him, so I did. Each time he said he was fine. That was until he rolled his eyes up into his head and dropped to the floor. Would your mistress know what to do? Would she know what to check for and how to revive you?
There are times in domination sessions and fetish sessions when a mistress or domina is playing and working with body energy, anything can happen. The key is to know you're in safe hands, given the fact that if anything happens to you, and if your Mistress does not know what to do, your family could find out where you have been. Discretion doesn't always mean what you think it does. Experience, knowledge, safety, discretion, and wisdom are VERY important, and I possess ALL of these traits and MANY more.
INFORMED CONSENT or R.A.C.K. Risk Aware Consensual Kink means your Mistress explained to you the risk. When a young guy in his early 20's has an affinity for cbt & ballbusting, and to get his balls annihilated time and time again and over the course of many years, the responsible kind of Mistress will tell him what the risks are, and that he needs to think about it. Maybe she tells him she won't see him for 3 months, six months, a year. If you damage the ball sack and testicles among other things, it is possible that testicular torsion or becoming sterile is an outcome. Most men with a fetish will put their fetish desires & needs first, before anything else. When a person has a fetish or kink, they have a very strong desire to experience this fetish. They really can't help it.
Sanity, To Many Fetishists, Is A Perceived Value
Let me glide into the term "sanity" here. What is "sane" really? To give you an "edge play" bdsm example, If I do a cbt testicular skewer, is that safe? More than that, is it "SANE"? Ask the edge play people the question, "What is sanity?" Ask a novice that same question, and you'll get a totally different answer.
I am a Rare, Experienced, & Extraordinary Type of Mistress
A dominatrix or mistress in a femdom domination session or domina fetish session involves something you love. It is a lot like a ride at an amusement park. Your partner doesn't want to go on the ride because they are scared to death, but you do. You are a thrill-seeker! So, you must shift your thinking. If you are a foot fetishist & love foot worship, and cannot get your wife to let you give her foot massages and kiss & lick her toes and love up her feet, a huge part of your sexuality is missing completely! A man with a fetish may love his wife, (and I've heard this from many men), and for whatever reason their partner cannot be talked into even the slightest bit of kink.
Some people have issues with abuse, sometimes there are triggers to the past, sometimes it is something they struggle with in their own selves that make it impossible for them to be loved like the Goddess they are. Plus, quite a few women are happy in the role of being a wife, the submissive, the caretaker, and they want their man to be the head of the household and they cannot see them as anything less. If a man wants to cross-dress, and dress up like a woman, some wives do not want to see this! It ruins everything that particular wife ever thought of her husband. She might wonder why he wants to do this, and where has his masculinity gone and is he gay. All kinds of things run through a wife, girlfriend, or significant other's mind, and she cannot firmly grasp the need to be either humiliated or be turned on while her fetishist boyfriend or kinky husband is wearing women's clothes.
It is my pleasure to use the countless dominatrix, mistress, & fetish medical play skills that I have learned over many years. I have enjoyed collecting equipment, wigs, makeup, lingerie and clothing in many different sizes for feminizing crossdressers or the forced feminization of sissies. I've collected bdsm implements, crops, whips, floggers, medical fetish equipment, countless bdsm & fetish devices, and I know how to get into a person's head, and I understand their bdsm or fetish they want & their kinky mind, as to where they really want to go and feel.
After all, bdsm bondage, domination sessions, forced feminization, foot fetish & worship, medical sessions, hypnotized mind control, sissy training, otk spanking, etc . . . these are ALL a therapeutic experience, and a healing experience. Maybe it's just a way to explode your kink or fetish for domination, but however you use it, you must do it with someone you can trust, and someone who knows the many intricacies and dynamics of these things.
You definitely do not want to session with someone who poses as a dominatrix and only sees you as a cash cow. There is a fetish place for that, (Financial Domination, FinDom). What I'm referring to specifically, is someone who over charges for the kinds of sessions they offer, has a lack of experience, knowledge, and expertise, and may or may not play safe or consensually, but of course will play with you anyway because they want to get the dollars, which means they don't really care about you.
Financial domination is something COMPLETELY different, and most Mistresses don't understand that anyway.