BDSM Question: Can You DO Dangerous BDSM Activities Like Breathplay (Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation) Safely?

 

BDSM Question: Can You DO Dangerous BDSM Activities Like Breathplay (Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation) Safely?

 

BDSM Question:

"Can You DO Breathplay (Breath Play) Safely?"

Breath Play / Breathplay / Edge Play / EA / Erotic Asphyxiation


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Sent: Thu, May 16, 2024 at 3:37 AM
Subject: INQUIRY

I have had a long term fetish with breath play specifically hanging or a rope being pulled tight enough to cause me to pass out. Do you offer such a service?

Safety is a big concern for me. I want to feel it, I want to be humiliated and told that I will die...but I want to know I'm safe

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I know there are inherent dangers with this. MANY years ago I almost was killed trying this. So I am hoping that you are familiar with this fetish and know how to do it safely.

 

 

Mistress Sharina's Answer:

On Fri, May 17, 2024 at 3:50 PM, Sharina Nicole
<This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.> wrote:

I want to be sure you know one important thing about breath play. There is no real safe way to provide this experience without risk. The risk can be tremendous, especially if you've experienced it for years. The *effect is cumulative* -meaning your risk may increase by the repeated times you practice in Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation.  The end result being, you may have heart failure out of nowhere, without warning.

I think it's important for me to tell you in my opinion, you have an addiction. It goes far beyond just the enjoyment of it as in some simple "hand over mouth play" (HOM) or a very subtle with several seconds of limiting the ability to breathe. Breathplay (Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation) is dangerous, and there is no safe way to do it because it's tempting to go farther and farther until you reach the point of no return. You may pass out and due to unknown complications or just the wear and tear on your body, age or underlying health issues plus not having control over every incident because accidents happen.

I would advise you to seek a therapist that is kink aware. Solely for the purpose of you living a long and happy life. A therapist will have methods to help you. You may even want to get a dog who is with you all the time to thwart the temptation.

The other thing is, breathplay (Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation) alone may not be enough, and you may seek other methods adding to your loss of control that would be SEVERELY detrimental to your health, namely your brain and the breakdown of your physical body. I will not mention these methods because they are death defying, however I know of issues where the intensity of the breathplay  (Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation) experience was elevated to the point that it critically complicated the experience and lead to death.

I will stress, there is no "safe way" to perform breathplay (Breath Play / Erotic Asphyxiation) when a person is deep into it. Not by having a partner with you supervising during the experience, or sucking a lemon to pull yourself out of the dangers of going too far. These things WILL NOT WORK. There are definitely other avenues of fear play that will not eventually lead to death.

KAP, "Kink Aware Professionals" are the way to go, so you may find someone to communicate with.

I wish you the best and if you need additional help in finding a therapist,  please let me know.

Here are some links.

M Sharina



KAP website:
https://www.kapprofessionals.org/

Here in Minnesota:
https://www.kapprofessionals.org/kap_directory/13575/kink-affirmative-therapist-4/